Feel Like Bad Mommy

I'm grounding my 13 year old and her grounding includes no cheering at tomorrow's basketball game. She got a bad grade on a report and I told her before she started cheerleading that if she was going to do cheerleading, she had to keep her grades up or I was pulling her. I shouldn't feel bad for giving consequences but I do!  Maybe I'd feel a little bit better if hubby totally agreed with me but he thought the zero on the report was consequence enough.  Um, no!  What would that show her if I allowed her to go back on our agreement?  What would that show her if we didn't make a big deal out of a zero on a report?  She did the crime, now she does the time and if that means her last away game of the season, so be it.

We give her the tools to do her homework - a desk, a laptop with enough laptop memory to do whatever she needs, help if she has questions.  She didn't ask me for help on the report and she said she was too embarassed to ask her teacher for help because she'd look stupid in front of her classmates.  Well, here's the consequences.